From Small Beginnings, Come Great Things - American Proverb
That day I was admiring a beautiful house near my sister's place. The design of the house was breathtaking, subhan Allah. Although I don't have any inkling whatsoever about architectural design, I do love houses, buildings and structures that reflect great creativity and genius. I could not begin to imagine the sheer hard work the designers and architects must have put into the design.
Thomas Disch once said, 'Creativity is the ability to see relationships where none exist'.
And I totally agree with Mr. Thomas here. This house I am appreciating has a perfect combination of classic, ancient and gothic with a touch of modernity in it, subhan Allah.
I chuckled at the thought of my very best effort in designing a house: a square box with a roof and chimney and a few squared windows and one door, with a sun coming out from behind it! Got the picture? So, obviously, I truly appreciate talents of people who can design such a strikingly beautiful house.
But then I got curious. Despite its gorgeousness and majestic outlook, the house was empty. I mean, it looked as if it had been left empty for years. The garden is full of weeds growing as tall as a 9 year old, cobwebs were everywhere, the main gate was all rusty and most windows were broken too. It was then my dad told me that the house was empty for a reason. “What's the reason, dad?” I asked him “Well, it seemed that when the house was being built, the owner refused to follow the advice that it should not be three-storeys high as the ground it was built on was kind of soft. And if he still wanted to do so, he would have to build a stronger foundation for the house and use the right kind of piling as pillars. But he refused to listen and built the house his way anyway. And now, the house is not safe to live in.” “Wow, what a shame and a waste of money!” I couldn't believe my ears, shaking my head in disbelief. The owner must have lost hundreds of thousands of his hard earned money. Poor him…
As I reflected on that incident later in the day, it suddenly dawned upon me the words of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) who once said, "Islam is built on five (pillars): the testimony that there is no god except Allah and that Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah; establishing prayer; paying zakah; fasting Ramadan; and Hajj to the House (the Ka`bah)." (Al-Bukhari)
SubhanAllah! Don't I see that my beautiful religion too, has pillars and foundations of its own which I should adhere and follow? The pillars that have been identified by my Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) about 1429 years ago, and they still hold true until today. And he (peace be upon him) had left us these pillars for one reason- the very soil also known as life that we all stand (live) on is, yes, you got it- soft! Soft as in unstable, risky, dangerous, uneven, unbalanced, uncertain, unsafe and could be hazardous to our lives.
And if we failed to build the right kind of pillars as the foundation to our home (a.k.a. life) here on this earth, we might just end up like that wasted house- all beautiful but of no use to anyone! Yikes! Na`udhbillaahi min dhalik! Surely, that is not something that we want to become, you agree? I, for one, truly do not want to be like that wasted house. Nope, I really don't. Really. Really. Really. In fact, I want to built a 'house' that I could live in happily and peacefully; where others could come visit without worrying if the roof is going to fall on them or the floor is going to suck them in. I want to build a place where people could call it a happy home and where others and I can find solace in, inshaAllah.
And as we all know, in just a few days, we shall be given a chance to strengthen the current foundation to our houses using one of the mentioned pillars- the pillar of fasting in the great month of Ramadan! He, the Almighty has special instruction for us during this month when He said in one of His Verses,
(The month of Ramadan in which was revealed the Quran, a guidance for mankind, and clear proofs of the guidance, and the Criterion (of right and wrong). And whosoever of you is present, let him fast the month, and whosoever of you is sick or on a journey, (let him fast the same) number of other days. Allah desires for you ease; He desires not hardship for you; and (He desires) that ye should complete the period, and that ye should magnify Allah for having guided you, and that peradventure ye may be thankful.) (Al-Baqarah 2: 185)
Yes, that is what we should be doing this month of Ramadan, you agree? Fasting. Thinking about this special month made me become excited suddenly. Why shouldn’t I, right? This is literally the only opportunity that I have to strengthen this one pillar as it only comes once a year and it only lasts for 30 days! 30 days? Yes, 30 days, my brothers and sisters. Only for 30 days.
We are given about 30-days to do whatever we should do to ensure that this one pillar becomes so strong that it would be able to withstand whatever hurricane, tsunami and turbulence that might come our way for the next 326 days (365 minus 30 days) until the next round of 'piling' comes- if we live that long, that is! Oppss… such is the reality of life, huh?
And you know something else? One of the best part of having Ramadan with us is this,
“When Ramadan comes, the gates of mercy are opened and the gates of Hell are shut, and the devils are put in chains.” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)
Yup, all the gates of mercy are opened, my friends! Opened! Isn't that amazing? I began wondering, what is behind those gates of mercy. Do you wonder too, my brothers and sisters? One thing I believe is that it contains a gazillion times of a gazillion things called mercy that we cannot imagine having, right? Much like what the gates of banks would have what behind it. Yup, you got it. MONEY! And the gates of libraries would have books and the gates of schools would have children inside them, right? Subhan Allah…
So, I know that I must take plan my Ramadan well this year, inshaAllah as His Gate of Mercy is wide open for me, Ameen…
And coincidently, about a week back, I received something from a friend called 'Ramadan Planner'. It has a 30-day plan where we can insert / change / edit whatever information according to our fancy. And this Ramadan Planner is sure able to help us plan our recitation of His Book, our remembrance of His Names, our Charity to give away, our obligatory prayers time and supererogatory Prayers like the Tarawih Prayers and many other good deeds we plan to do during this Holy month of Ramadan- all charted in this wonderful planner.
Nevertheless, I will always remember what Will Rogers once said, Plans get you into things, but you got to work your way out. I surely do! And my dearest brothers and sisters- you know, you have to, too! So, let us all do it together then, you agree?
Let us start planning!
Ramadan Kareem to everyone!
Tazkiyatun nafs....
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Sis Zabrina: The Story of A Rider and An Old Man- Motivational Story about Kindness and Compassion
That day, I was walking on the street and was about to cross the road. On the other side of the road, I saw a young man holding the hands of a physically-challenged man, getting him ready to cross the road too. Looking at both of them, I cannot help but smile.
SubhanAllah, I absolutely love watching the display of human kindness. It always made my heart feel all warm inside. The goodness shown by this person towards another being somehow has such great effect on me. It made me feel good. Really good.
Later in the evening, as I reflected on that incident, I realized something strange.
Even though I was watching in a distance the act of kindness of this man, and has no part in it, somehow, I felt very happy inside, as if the one receiving his kindness is me!
How strange is that, right, my brothers and sisters?
That thought kept me thinking.
If by just simply watching the act of kindness of others could make me feel happy and warm inside, imagine the happiness of the person who was actually receiving such kindness!
Come to think of it, was there like a 3-way effects from 1 act of kindness?
It somehow makes the you (the helper), he (the one being helped) and them (the ones watching the act of kindness displayed) feel so good inside!
It is sure a great way to spread joy and happiness in this world. Totally!
SubhanAllah... Amazing, you agree?
No wonder our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) stressed so much on the importance of being kind to others so much so that he (pbuh) once said,
"Allah is not kind to him who is not kind to people."
Hadith - Tirmidhi, Saheeh: Related by Aboo Daawood (no. 4177) and at-Tirmidhee (no. 1877). It was declared authentic by Imaam al-Albaanee in as-Saheehah (no. 417):
Nauzubillah.... Wow, how scary is that?
The thought of losing Allah's kindness scared the heck out of me! Yup, it does...
I remembered a quote by Charles H. Spurgeon who once said,
A good character is the best tombstone.
I think he was right. I reflected on the recent death of the King of Pop Michael Jackson, and one of the things that was highlighted about him during the memorial service was- yes, you guessed it- his kindness towards the unfortunate!
Let me share with you a story about a rider and an old man I once read.
It was a bitter, cold evening. The old man waited for a ride across the river. The wait seemed endless. His body became numb and stiff from the frigid north wind. He heard the faint, steady rhythm of approaching hooves galloping along the frozen path.
He watched as several horsemen approached and left without acknowledging his presence. Finally, the last rider neared the spot where the old man sat like a snow statue.
As this one drew near, the old man said, “Sir, would you mind giving an old man a ride to the other side? There doesn't appear to be a passageway by foot.” Reining his horse, the rider replied, “Sure. Hop aboard.”
Seeing the old man was unable to lift his half-frozen body from the ground, the horseman dismounted and helped the old man onto the horse. The horseman took the old man all the way to his home, which was just a few miles away.
As they neared the tiny cottage, the horseman inquired, “I noticed that you let several other riders pass by, then when I came, you immediately asked for a ride. I'm curious why, on such a bitter winter night; you would wait and ask the last rider. What if I had refused and left you there?”
The old man lowered himself from the horse, looked the rider straight in the eyes, and replied, “I've been around here for some time. I reckon I know people pretty good.”
He continued, “I looked into the eyes of the other riders and saw there was no concern for my situation. But when I looked into your eyes, kindness and compassion were evident. I knew that your gentle spirit would welcome the opportunity to give me assistance in my time of need.”
SubhanAllah, this story brings the quote 'Your eyes are the windows to your heart' a new meaning to me.
Needless to say, this story made me think hard that day. It is obvious that the kindness and gentleness a person has was reflected in his eyes.
I asked myself- what do my eyes reflects of when people look at me? Do they see kindness, gentleness, compassion and sympathy or resentment, hatred, bitterness and anger?
Astaghfirullah, I need to do a lot of reflection today. I truly do...
What about you, my friends? Have you ever wondered how does your eyes reflects what is in your heart? How does others see you thru your eyes? Are you the type of person people would come for help, or they hated even the thought of asking help from you?
I promised myself today that inshaAllah, I will strive to be like the rider whose eyes so gentle and kind that a stranger felt at ease asking him for help. And because of that, this rider will always get the help he needed from Allah the Al Mighty as His promise in His Book,
"Those who are kind and considerate to Allah's creatures, Allah bestows His kindness and affection on them. Show kindness to the creatures on the earth so that Allah may be kind to you." (The Noble Qur'an - Al-Fath 48:29)
Don't we want to receive His kindness and affection, my brother and sisters?
I know I do!
And by just being kind to His creatures, we are well on our way to surely and definitely receive our Lord's kindness and affection, you agree? Now, does that make you feel all happy inside? I sure do!
SubhanAllah, I absolutely love watching the display of human kindness. It always made my heart feel all warm inside. The goodness shown by this person towards another being somehow has such great effect on me. It made me feel good. Really good.
Later in the evening, as I reflected on that incident, I realized something strange.
Even though I was watching in a distance the act of kindness of this man, and has no part in it, somehow, I felt very happy inside, as if the one receiving his kindness is me!
How strange is that, right, my brothers and sisters?
That thought kept me thinking.
If by just simply watching the act of kindness of others could make me feel happy and warm inside, imagine the happiness of the person who was actually receiving such kindness!
Come to think of it, was there like a 3-way effects from 1 act of kindness?
It somehow makes the you (the helper), he (the one being helped) and them (the ones watching the act of kindness displayed) feel so good inside!
It is sure a great way to spread joy and happiness in this world. Totally!
SubhanAllah... Amazing, you agree?
No wonder our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) stressed so much on the importance of being kind to others so much so that he (pbuh) once said,
"Allah is not kind to him who is not kind to people."
Hadith - Tirmidhi, Saheeh: Related by Aboo Daawood (no. 4177) and at-Tirmidhee (no. 1877). It was declared authentic by Imaam al-Albaanee in as-Saheehah (no. 417):
Nauzubillah.... Wow, how scary is that?
The thought of losing Allah's kindness scared the heck out of me! Yup, it does...
I remembered a quote by Charles H. Spurgeon who once said,
A good character is the best tombstone.
I think he was right. I reflected on the recent death of the King of Pop Michael Jackson, and one of the things that was highlighted about him during the memorial service was- yes, you guessed it- his kindness towards the unfortunate!
Let me share with you a story about a rider and an old man I once read.
It was a bitter, cold evening. The old man waited for a ride across the river. The wait seemed endless. His body became numb and stiff from the frigid north wind. He heard the faint, steady rhythm of approaching hooves galloping along the frozen path.
He watched as several horsemen approached and left without acknowledging his presence. Finally, the last rider neared the spot where the old man sat like a snow statue.
As this one drew near, the old man said, “Sir, would you mind giving an old man a ride to the other side? There doesn't appear to be a passageway by foot.” Reining his horse, the rider replied, “Sure. Hop aboard.”
Seeing the old man was unable to lift his half-frozen body from the ground, the horseman dismounted and helped the old man onto the horse. The horseman took the old man all the way to his home, which was just a few miles away.
As they neared the tiny cottage, the horseman inquired, “I noticed that you let several other riders pass by, then when I came, you immediately asked for a ride. I'm curious why, on such a bitter winter night; you would wait and ask the last rider. What if I had refused and left you there?”
The old man lowered himself from the horse, looked the rider straight in the eyes, and replied, “I've been around here for some time. I reckon I know people pretty good.”
He continued, “I looked into the eyes of the other riders and saw there was no concern for my situation. But when I looked into your eyes, kindness and compassion were evident. I knew that your gentle spirit would welcome the opportunity to give me assistance in my time of need.”
SubhanAllah, this story brings the quote 'Your eyes are the windows to your heart' a new meaning to me.
Needless to say, this story made me think hard that day. It is obvious that the kindness and gentleness a person has was reflected in his eyes.
I asked myself- what do my eyes reflects of when people look at me? Do they see kindness, gentleness, compassion and sympathy or resentment, hatred, bitterness and anger?
Astaghfirullah, I need to do a lot of reflection today. I truly do...
What about you, my friends? Have you ever wondered how does your eyes reflects what is in your heart? How does others see you thru your eyes? Are you the type of person people would come for help, or they hated even the thought of asking help from you?
I promised myself today that inshaAllah, I will strive to be like the rider whose eyes so gentle and kind that a stranger felt at ease asking him for help. And because of that, this rider will always get the help he needed from Allah the Al Mighty as His promise in His Book,
"Those who are kind and considerate to Allah's creatures, Allah bestows His kindness and affection on them. Show kindness to the creatures on the earth so that Allah may be kind to you." (The Noble Qur'an - Al-Fath 48:29)
Don't we want to receive His kindness and affection, my brother and sisters?
I know I do!
And by just being kind to His creatures, we are well on our way to surely and definitely receive our Lord's kindness and affection, you agree? Now, does that make you feel all happy inside? I sure do!
Di hari lahirmu…
Suatu waktu di hari lahirmu..
Dikau menangis meninggalkan kandung ibumu…
Manusia gembira memberi restu..
Tanda bahagia dengan kelahiranmu…
Saat berlalu… menginjak usiamu…
Sehari ke sehari…semakin dewasa dirimu…
Saat berlalu…hampir dekat dengan janji Tuhanmu buatmu
Di saat itu…moga kau akan ingat…wahai adikku..
Di saat ketawa…pasti nanti akan ada sedu dan syahdu…
Saat terpisah dirimu dan diriku…dan semua yang pernah menyayangimu…
Di hari lahirmu…
Ku tujukan sajak khas buat dirimu…
Tanda ingatan diriku buatmu…
Moga hari lahirmu…mengingatkanmu pada Penciptamu…
Yang tertulis di kitabNya saatnya pasti akan bertemu…
Moga cukup bekal dirimu dan diriku…
Buat perjalanan yang untung dan rugi masih belum tentu…
Di hari ini adikku…
Moga kau syukuri nikmat umur kurniaan Tuhan buatmu…
Moga tahun yang mendatang lebih baik dari tahun yang berlalu…
Dan moga dikau menjadi insan yang jauh lebih baik dari dahulu…
Sajak ini untukmu adikku…
Tanda ingatan ikhlas dariku kakakmu…
Moga kekal kasih sayang dikau dan aku…
Kerana Allah…Tuhan kita yang satu..
From London With Love...
Suatu waktu di hari lahirmu..
Dikau menangis meninggalkan kandung ibumu…
Manusia gembira memberi restu..
Tanda bahagia dengan kelahiranmu…
Saat berlalu… menginjak usiamu…
Sehari ke sehari…semakin dewasa dirimu…
Saat berlalu…hampir dekat dengan janji Tuhanmu buatmu
Di saat itu…moga kau akan ingat…wahai adikku..
Di saat ketawa…pasti nanti akan ada sedu dan syahdu…
Saat terpisah dirimu dan diriku…dan semua yang pernah menyayangimu…
Di hari lahirmu…
Ku tujukan sajak khas buat dirimu…
Tanda ingatan diriku buatmu…
Moga hari lahirmu…mengingatkanmu pada Penciptamu…
Yang tertulis di kitabNya saatnya pasti akan bertemu…
Moga cukup bekal dirimu dan diriku…
Buat perjalanan yang untung dan rugi masih belum tentu…
Di hari ini adikku…
Moga kau syukuri nikmat umur kurniaan Tuhan buatmu…
Moga tahun yang mendatang lebih baik dari tahun yang berlalu…
Dan moga dikau menjadi insan yang jauh lebih baik dari dahulu…
Sajak ini untukmu adikku…
Tanda ingatan ikhlas dariku kakakmu…
Moga kekal kasih sayang dikau dan aku…
Kerana Allah…Tuhan kita yang satu..
From London With Love...
Zaman remaja adalah zaman untuk mencari dan mengenal diri. Setelah akal semakin mampu untuk berfikir jauh. Sekurang-kurangnya sudah mengenal mana baik dan buruk, halal dan haram, najis dan yang suci, syurga dan neraka.
Umur sebegini, orang muda cenderung untuk hidup di dalam perkumpulan. Gemar juga untuk mencari penyelesaian di luar rumah dibandingkan dengan berbincang dengan ibu dan ayah. Dan ketika inilah jiwa sudah menyubur untuk mengenal apa itu cinta (berlainan jenis).
Mengapa bercinta?
Terkadang bercinta dengan sebab ikut-ikutan (kerana melihat kawan sedang 'bahagia'). Terkadang ia bercinta supaya 'pointer' selalu meningkat naik. Dan katanya agar ada teman yang dapat memberi nasihat. Alamat.. jika salah bercinta, bubur tidak akan kembali menjadi nasi..
Sebelum bercinta fikirkan perkara-perkara ini wahai orang muda :
1. Sudahkah anda bersedia untuk bercinta?
Adakah sudah bersedia menghadapi risiko di dalam percintaan? Adat orang mengatakan cinta itu bersatu, dan ada kalanya ia membutakan mata. Manakala yang tidak nampak jalannya habis hancur masa depan hidupnya.
Cinta tidak semestinya bersatu, ada kalanya ia terputus di tengah jalan. Dan ada kalanya ia berjaya sehingga ke jinjang pelamin. Risiko putus cinta selalu membuatkan manusia seolah-olah putus asa. Hilang hala tuju hidupnya. Entah berapa ramai yang sudah menamatkan nyawanya sendiri bila cinta nafsu lebih diharapkan dari cinta kepada Illahi.
2. Apa matlamat Anda bercinta?
* Mungkin untuk merosakkan anak gadis atau hati orang lain?
* Ikut-ikutan atau suka-suka sahaja?
* Untuk mencari pengganti pasangan yang telah pergi? (tetapi sekiranya ia ingin kembali semula suatu hari nanti, anda dengan rela diri meninggalkan pasangan baru anda yang telah diberikan harapan?
* Sekadar cinta monyet yang tiada matlamat di masa hadapan?
* Untuk mendirikan rumah tangga yang membawa kasih sayang dan rahmat dari ALLah?
Orang yang mulanya bercinta - hatinya akan berbunga-bunga. Tidak ia sedar apa yang berlaku di sekelilingnya kerana disibukkan dengan apa yang dicintainya. Segalanya nampak cantik, molek, comel dan sempurna belaka. 'Pijak semut tidak mati'. Segalanya berjalan dengan penuh optimis dan positif. Lalu mungkin 'menipu diri sendiri' sudah menjadi pegangan agar hubungan berlangsung dengan menarik dan dapat dikekalkan.
Apabila perhubungan cinta anda mulai 'berkelap kelip' - mulalah anda akan berfikir semula akan buruk dan baiknya pasangan anda. Mungkin ketika ini anda akan berusaha mencari solusi. Sekiranya berjaya perhubungan anda akan berjalan seperti biasa. Dan sekiranya dalam bahaya, ia akan membawa kepada 'putus cinta'. Perkataan inilah yang menjadi penghancur jiwa, rasa kecewa, terhina, rendah diri, sakit hati, dendam, putus asa. Maka istilah-istilah cinta yang dahulunya berkisarkan fantasi, anda akan sedar ia bukanlah realiti.
Menjadi hipokrit satu perkara, iaitu masalah yang akan dibawa apabila hidup di dalam sebuah rumah di atas pernikahan yang sah. Segala-galanya yang 'cantik', 'molek' akan ditunjukkan juga sebagai satu hakikat yang perlu anda terima. Samada anda terima dengan terpaksa atau redha selamanya.
3. Mengapa Anda Bercinta?
* Kerana ALLah?
* Kerana cantik rupanya? Mancung hidung, kumisnya tebal? Badannya serupa model? - yang pasti semuanya ini tidak kekal lama. Berapa ramai wanita yang menghidapi sakit barah kulit kerana taksubnya kepada yang dinamakan 'KECANTIKAN' ? Berapa ramai pula yang sanggup berhutang, mengorbankan identiti seorang Muslimah dan Muslim kerana tertarik dengan namanya KEMODENAN?
* Kerana duitnya? Harta yang bertimbun?
* Kerana empunya diri itu sendiri?
* Kerana Agamanya? Ia akan di bawa di dunia dan akhirat. Tetapi ramai juga yang terjerumus di lembah hina. Kerana yang dibawa rupanya selama ini adalah nafsu tetapi disolek dengan nama Agama.
Anda akan dapat apa yang anda niatkan. Ingat perjalanan cinta sesama manusia amat jauh, dan mungkin juga dekat, ataupun ia satu perjalanan yang tidak pasti.
4. Apa Modal Untuk Bercinta?
* Adakah dengan modal air liur? Atau jari jemari menulis sms?
Sedarkah anda? apabila bercinta dan anda meletakkan sesuatu di dalam hati seseorang. Ini telah memberikan ia pengharapan baru dalam hidupnya. Dan ia akan berusaha untuk mencapainya. Jika cinta anda sekadar cinta monyet, cinta untuk merosakkan anak orang, ikut-ikutan dan hanya menjadikan orang lain sebagai batu galas - CINTA NAFSU. Eloklah lupakan sahaja. Anda hanya akan menjadikan diri anda sendiri bahan fitnah yang akan orang ingat sampai bila-bila.
Sedarkah anda? Mahligai perkahwinan itu memerlukan pengorbanan bukan sahaja dari segi jari jemari dan air liur. Tetapi lebih dari itu adalah modal ilmu untuk mendirikan sebuah keluarga yang beragama, cintakan ALLah dan rasul-Nya. Modal harta iaitu pekerjaan dari sumber rezeki yang halal untuk anda berikan kepada isteri, dan anak-anak. Modal hati dan perasaan untuk dikongsi, difahami, kesabaran dan sebagainya.
5. Berapa Lama Anda Ingin Bercinta?
* Seminggu?
* Sebulan?
* Tiga, empat tahun?
* Sehingga habis belajar?
* Cinta hingga ke akhirat?
Apabila anda bercinta, setiap pasangan pastinya ingin mengetahui sampai bilakah mereka akan bercinta? Dan apabila perhubungan itu diketahui oleh sang ibu dan ayah, tentunya mereka akan bertanya bila pula tarikh merisik, pertunangan dan perkahwinan pula akan dijalankan? Dan tentunya kaum kerabat pula akan tertanya-tanya, dengan siapa anda berkawan. Mungkin ada yang sudah diusung ke hulu dan hilir - orang kampung pun sudah mulai berbisikan. Walaupun anda sangkakan di bandar orang bersikap tidak ambil peduli. Tetapi malaikat di kiri dan kanan tetap juga menulis catatan..
6. Kos Cinta
* Duit yang anda habiskan semata-mata untuk sidia - telefon (sms, mms, chat etc), bil elektrik, bil internet,
* Masa yang anda korbankan untuk sidia
* Hati dan perasaan
Sikap Matang Dalam Mencari Cinta
Wahai pemuda dan pemudi, menyebut perkataan cinta sesama manusia itu mudah, tetapi untuk melaksanakannya amatlah payah. Bercinta bukan menjadi tiket yang menghalalkan anda menyerahkan jasad kehormatan anda. Bukan juga bermakna anda sudah menjadi juara dan normal sebagaimana insan lain yang bercinta (sudah fahamkah erti cinta yang sebenarnya?). Anda rosak kerana cinta? - ia adalah kesalahan anda sendiri di dalam menterjemahkan cinta yang suci dan abadi. Semaklah semula adatnya bagaimana RasuluLlah menyalurkan perasaan cinta.
Jika berbaloi dengan bercinta - anda dapat merasai hidup bahagia serta mendapat keredhaan ALlah kerana matlamat anda jelas, anda sedia redha dengan kemungkinan yang berlaku serta tidak menyalahkan taqdir, perjalanan cinta tidak melanggar batas syarak. Maka silalah untuk bercinta.
Fikirkan.. Dalam masa bercinta, bagaimana hubungan kita dengan ALlah dan manusia serta makhluk yang lain? Semakin baik ataupun semakin jauh dan terus menjurang. Adakah ia menjadikan kita hamba Allah yang bertaqwa ataupun hamba Allah yang derhaka?
sumber : http://jomfaham.blogspot.com/2009/04/anda-ingin-bercinta.html
Umur sebegini, orang muda cenderung untuk hidup di dalam perkumpulan. Gemar juga untuk mencari penyelesaian di luar rumah dibandingkan dengan berbincang dengan ibu dan ayah. Dan ketika inilah jiwa sudah menyubur untuk mengenal apa itu cinta (berlainan jenis).
Mengapa bercinta?
Terkadang bercinta dengan sebab ikut-ikutan (kerana melihat kawan sedang 'bahagia'). Terkadang ia bercinta supaya 'pointer' selalu meningkat naik. Dan katanya agar ada teman yang dapat memberi nasihat. Alamat.. jika salah bercinta, bubur tidak akan kembali menjadi nasi..
Sebelum bercinta fikirkan perkara-perkara ini wahai orang muda :
1. Sudahkah anda bersedia untuk bercinta?
Adakah sudah bersedia menghadapi risiko di dalam percintaan? Adat orang mengatakan cinta itu bersatu, dan ada kalanya ia membutakan mata. Manakala yang tidak nampak jalannya habis hancur masa depan hidupnya.
Cinta tidak semestinya bersatu, ada kalanya ia terputus di tengah jalan. Dan ada kalanya ia berjaya sehingga ke jinjang pelamin. Risiko putus cinta selalu membuatkan manusia seolah-olah putus asa. Hilang hala tuju hidupnya. Entah berapa ramai yang sudah menamatkan nyawanya sendiri bila cinta nafsu lebih diharapkan dari cinta kepada Illahi.
2. Apa matlamat Anda bercinta?
* Mungkin untuk merosakkan anak gadis atau hati orang lain?
* Ikut-ikutan atau suka-suka sahaja?
* Untuk mencari pengganti pasangan yang telah pergi? (tetapi sekiranya ia ingin kembali semula suatu hari nanti, anda dengan rela diri meninggalkan pasangan baru anda yang telah diberikan harapan?
* Sekadar cinta monyet yang tiada matlamat di masa hadapan?
* Untuk mendirikan rumah tangga yang membawa kasih sayang dan rahmat dari ALLah?
Orang yang mulanya bercinta - hatinya akan berbunga-bunga. Tidak ia sedar apa yang berlaku di sekelilingnya kerana disibukkan dengan apa yang dicintainya. Segalanya nampak cantik, molek, comel dan sempurna belaka. 'Pijak semut tidak mati'. Segalanya berjalan dengan penuh optimis dan positif. Lalu mungkin 'menipu diri sendiri' sudah menjadi pegangan agar hubungan berlangsung dengan menarik dan dapat dikekalkan.
Apabila perhubungan cinta anda mulai 'berkelap kelip' - mulalah anda akan berfikir semula akan buruk dan baiknya pasangan anda. Mungkin ketika ini anda akan berusaha mencari solusi. Sekiranya berjaya perhubungan anda akan berjalan seperti biasa. Dan sekiranya dalam bahaya, ia akan membawa kepada 'putus cinta'. Perkataan inilah yang menjadi penghancur jiwa, rasa kecewa, terhina, rendah diri, sakit hati, dendam, putus asa. Maka istilah-istilah cinta yang dahulunya berkisarkan fantasi, anda akan sedar ia bukanlah realiti.
Menjadi hipokrit satu perkara, iaitu masalah yang akan dibawa apabila hidup di dalam sebuah rumah di atas pernikahan yang sah. Segala-galanya yang 'cantik', 'molek' akan ditunjukkan juga sebagai satu hakikat yang perlu anda terima. Samada anda terima dengan terpaksa atau redha selamanya.
3. Mengapa Anda Bercinta?
* Kerana ALLah?
* Kerana cantik rupanya? Mancung hidung, kumisnya tebal? Badannya serupa model? - yang pasti semuanya ini tidak kekal lama. Berapa ramai wanita yang menghidapi sakit barah kulit kerana taksubnya kepada yang dinamakan 'KECANTIKAN' ? Berapa ramai pula yang sanggup berhutang, mengorbankan identiti seorang Muslimah dan Muslim kerana tertarik dengan namanya KEMODENAN?
* Kerana duitnya? Harta yang bertimbun?
* Kerana empunya diri itu sendiri?
* Kerana Agamanya? Ia akan di bawa di dunia dan akhirat. Tetapi ramai juga yang terjerumus di lembah hina. Kerana yang dibawa rupanya selama ini adalah nafsu tetapi disolek dengan nama Agama.
Anda akan dapat apa yang anda niatkan. Ingat perjalanan cinta sesama manusia amat jauh, dan mungkin juga dekat, ataupun ia satu perjalanan yang tidak pasti.
4. Apa Modal Untuk Bercinta?
* Adakah dengan modal air liur? Atau jari jemari menulis sms?
Sedarkah anda? apabila bercinta dan anda meletakkan sesuatu di dalam hati seseorang. Ini telah memberikan ia pengharapan baru dalam hidupnya. Dan ia akan berusaha untuk mencapainya. Jika cinta anda sekadar cinta monyet, cinta untuk merosakkan anak orang, ikut-ikutan dan hanya menjadikan orang lain sebagai batu galas - CINTA NAFSU. Eloklah lupakan sahaja. Anda hanya akan menjadikan diri anda sendiri bahan fitnah yang akan orang ingat sampai bila-bila.
Sedarkah anda? Mahligai perkahwinan itu memerlukan pengorbanan bukan sahaja dari segi jari jemari dan air liur. Tetapi lebih dari itu adalah modal ilmu untuk mendirikan sebuah keluarga yang beragama, cintakan ALLah dan rasul-Nya. Modal harta iaitu pekerjaan dari sumber rezeki yang halal untuk anda berikan kepada isteri, dan anak-anak. Modal hati dan perasaan untuk dikongsi, difahami, kesabaran dan sebagainya.
5. Berapa Lama Anda Ingin Bercinta?
* Seminggu?
* Sebulan?
* Tiga, empat tahun?
* Sehingga habis belajar?
* Cinta hingga ke akhirat?
Apabila anda bercinta, setiap pasangan pastinya ingin mengetahui sampai bilakah mereka akan bercinta? Dan apabila perhubungan itu diketahui oleh sang ibu dan ayah, tentunya mereka akan bertanya bila pula tarikh merisik, pertunangan dan perkahwinan pula akan dijalankan? Dan tentunya kaum kerabat pula akan tertanya-tanya, dengan siapa anda berkawan. Mungkin ada yang sudah diusung ke hulu dan hilir - orang kampung pun sudah mulai berbisikan. Walaupun anda sangkakan di bandar orang bersikap tidak ambil peduli. Tetapi malaikat di kiri dan kanan tetap juga menulis catatan..
6. Kos Cinta
* Duit yang anda habiskan semata-mata untuk sidia - telefon (sms, mms, chat etc), bil elektrik, bil internet,
* Masa yang anda korbankan untuk sidia
* Hati dan perasaan
Sikap Matang Dalam Mencari Cinta
Wahai pemuda dan pemudi, menyebut perkataan cinta sesama manusia itu mudah, tetapi untuk melaksanakannya amatlah payah. Bercinta bukan menjadi tiket yang menghalalkan anda menyerahkan jasad kehormatan anda. Bukan juga bermakna anda sudah menjadi juara dan normal sebagaimana insan lain yang bercinta (sudah fahamkah erti cinta yang sebenarnya?). Anda rosak kerana cinta? - ia adalah kesalahan anda sendiri di dalam menterjemahkan cinta yang suci dan abadi. Semaklah semula adatnya bagaimana RasuluLlah menyalurkan perasaan cinta.
Jika berbaloi dengan bercinta - anda dapat merasai hidup bahagia serta mendapat keredhaan ALlah kerana matlamat anda jelas, anda sedia redha dengan kemungkinan yang berlaku serta tidak menyalahkan taqdir, perjalanan cinta tidak melanggar batas syarak. Maka silalah untuk bercinta.
Fikirkan.. Dalam masa bercinta, bagaimana hubungan kita dengan ALlah dan manusia serta makhluk yang lain? Semakin baik ataupun semakin jauh dan terus menjurang. Adakah ia menjadikan kita hamba Allah yang bertaqwa ataupun hamba Allah yang derhaka?
sumber : http://jomfaham.blogspot.com/2009/04/anda-ingin-bercinta.html
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